Asked if I had cosmetic surgery?

I have recently been to a family reunion, and right in front of about 15 people, one of my relatives asked me, 'So have you ever had cosmetic surgery before?' Suddenly, you could have heard a pin drop as everyone was waiting to hear how I would respond. I wanted to crawl into a hole. I just said ' well, that's kind of a rather personal question.' And then they said, 'You're rather defensive. So...if you didn't.....you would say no...so obviously you did. Gee!! Does anyone have any suggestions on how to answer a question like this without sounding offended or letting them assume that since you don't want to answer, you obviously did?

Asked if I had cosmetic surgery?
I like to turn situations like that back on the person asking by saying, "Why do you ask?"





Asking this might be embarrass the other person enough to shut them up, and if not, you get the opportunity to change the direction of the conversation.
Reply:Ask if they would like your surgeons name as they clearly need it!
Reply:well that was extremly rude of that person..instead of saying its personal (which makes it seem like you did) simply say no..but they did a great job on you LOL
Reply:Say None of your business.
Reply:I would just look at them and say "of course not, I'm fortunate enough not to need it!" and then immediately say, "why do you ask, do you need the name of a good surgeon?"
Reply:I agree that "why do you ask?' is a good response...





Just being forthright about it might be best, if it's obvious you had it. When you get plastic surgery, it's to look different, so if you look different, it's kind of unrealistic to expect people not to notice.





"yes, I'm very pleased with the results, thanks for noticing" would also be an appropriate response, not cagey, and not unkind, even though the question does seem rude...
Reply:There are two answers - one is the one you gave, that it's a personal question. The other is to say, "Thank you! It's nice to know that I look as though I've been enhanced - even if I haven't."
Reply:I think the person asking that question made a fool out of him/herself, not you. I can' t believe how rude that was!! I think you handled the situation perfectly.
Reply:Since they only asked if you EVER had it done not IF you had it done, I don't find that to be an issue. You smile and say thanks for thinking I did but no, this is just me aging well. You acted insulted and defensive for absolutely no reason and you could have handled it with so much more aplomb. Instead of taking it as an insult or too personal just be polite and take it as a compliment.